Frequently Asked Questions (FAQ)

1. I've never talked to anyone about my relationship issues. Isn't it a sign of weakness to seek couples counseling?

Not at all. Seeking help shows strength and self-awareness. It takes courage to recognize when you need support and to reach out for it. In our sessions, I’ll help you and your partner explore and identify your strengths and how to use them to address the challenges you face.

2. What's the difference between talking to you or discussing our issues with friends or family?

The key difference is expertise and confidentiality. As a trained professional, I provide a safe, judgment-free space to explore your relationship issues. I offer new perspectives, teach effective communication and conflict resolution skills, and help you both listen to and understand each other better. Counseling is also confidential, so you don’t have to worry about others knowing your private matters.

3. Why shouldn’t we just take medication to address our relationship issues?

Medication can be beneficial for certain issues, but it doesn't address the underlying dynamics of a relationship. Couples counseling helps you explore and resolve the root causes of your conflicts, improve communication, and build a stronger connection. Sometimes, medication may be used in conjunction with counseling for individual mental health issues, but it is not a standalone solution for relationship problems.

4. How does couples counseling work? What will we do in sessions?

Couples counseling involves exploring your relationship dynamics, communication patterns, and individual contributions to conflicts. Each session is tailored to your specific needs and goals. We might engage in exercises to improve communication, address past hurts, and develop strategies for resolving conflicts constructively.

5. How long will it take to see improvement in our relationship?

The duration of counseling varies depending on your unique situation and goals. Some couples see improvements in a few months, while others may take longer to work through deeper issues. Your commitment and active participation play a significant role in the progress and success of the counseling process.

6. How can we get the most out of couples counseling?

Your dedication and active involvement are crucial. Be open and honest during sessions, practice the skills and strategies we discuss, and apply them in your daily interactions. Focus on the only person you can change: yourself. Consistent effort and a willingness to work together will help you achieve the best results from couples counseling.

7. What if my partner doesn’t want to come to counseling?

It's common for one partner to be more hesitant about counseling. However, even if only one partner starts the process, it can lead to positive changes in the relationship. Often, when one partner begins to see improvements, the other becomes more willing to participate.

8. Is couples counseling effective?

Yes, many couples find counseling highly effective. It helps improve communication, resolve conflicts, and rebuild trust. The effectiveness largely depends on both partners' commitment to the process and willingness to make changes.

9. How do we find the right couples counselor for us?

Finding the right counselor involves considering factors such as their experience, therapeutic approach, and your comfort level with them. It's a good idea to start with recommendations from friends, family, or medical professionals, and to read therapist biographies. 

10. Can couples counseling help with infidelity?

Yes, couples counseling can be very effective in helping couples heal from infidelity. It involves addressing the underlying issues, rebuilding trust, and developing strategies to move forward together.

If you have any other questions or are ready to take the next step, feel free to reach out and schedule a FREE 20 minute consultation.